I learned within the first couple years of becoming a mother, that losing myself in the process does not make me a better parent. The more I gave and let my world revolve around my children, without taking time for me, the more depressed I felt. I was eventually a miserable person to be around.
It wasn’t until three years after becoming a mom, did I really start to rediscover who I was after having children. I knew I wasn’t the same person I was before having kids, and it was time to figure out who I was.
With a lot of trial and error, time spent with other mom friends and taking breaks for myself, I have figured out new strengths, found my tribe and feel more comfortable (post babies) in my skin than I have ever felt before.
Although I have a lot of exciting things going on in my world, including my kids and husband, I am allowing myself to repeatedly become burnt out over and over again. I have unknowingly created this cycle where I race around each day working, shuffling kids to and from school and daycare, tidying and then repeating the next day without taking enough time for me.
Yes, I have found how to carve some time out to exercise each day, but I don’t feel like I have been feeding my soul.Once upon a time, in a past life, I used to be an artist and an Interior Designer. This is the year that I find time to be creative, to use my talents that have become dormant during motherhood.
I used to laugh and have fun. I don’t laugh enough these days.
I used to push myself our of my comfort zone, including trying new sports. I haven’t been taking enough risks.
This is the year that I put less of my energy, time and patience into worrying about things like work deadlines, my kids, my marriage and my weight. Instead, I will just do.
I will work without over-obsessing.
I will enjoy my kids, lead by example, yell less and be more in tune.
I will continue to create new memories with my husband, let the little things go and allow myself to be more carefree with him.
I will create art and take on some DIY projects in my home.
I will watch less TV, and take hot baths or read instead.
I will eat less calories, but enjoy a glass of wine each day.
I will love my body regardless if I have had a great week full of fitness and healthy eating, or if I have slipped, and had to pull back a little.
I will live in the moment, laugh more and allow myself to experience life’s joy.
What is on your bucket list this year?