The book that reset my life and made me slow down my “yes”

Joanna Venditti June 28, 2018 Blog, Family, Self, Lifestyle, Love This

Girl, Wash Your face

Have you ever read a book that literally shook your world? A book that literally changed the way you live and function? I’ve had some that have inspired me, but until now, never have I ever read a book that has spoken to me so much that I now revisit it every couple of months.

Back in early spring I was having a lunch with a friend, content strategist and former HGTV producer. We were talking about Nesting Story, where it’s been, where it is now and where I want to take it. My friend asked me, “have you ever heard of Rachel Hollis?” No, I said. “You would love her! You are very similar in a lot of your values and she has built an amazing company which you would find inspirational. Also, she has a new book which I can’t wait to read.” She told me.

After our lunch I began following Rachel Hollis on social media, trying to see what I was missing out on. She seemed pretty cool. She was a mom of four, like me, was committed to date night every Thursday, like me, and was even short, like me.

So I decided to take this new relationship a step further and I bought her book., Girl, Wash Your Face.

After the introduction I was hooked, but I was going through a season of life where I just couldn’t find the time to stop and read. One of our kids needed me more than ever and I wanted to be available to them. I had, as usual, a million work projects on the go. Also, I had committed to quite a few volunteering positions which was starting to hang over my head.

I was on a hamster wheel, thinking I could keep piling it on. Volunteering and doing more and more and more is how I will achieve my goals and it’s what everyone expects right? Isn’t this how everyone lives, at break-neck speed? I should mention that my exercise routine had completely fallen by the wayside and I was barely completing any of my personal goals for Nesting Story.

It was impossible to just sit down and read a book. But a voice in me said that there was a message in this book that I needed to hear during that trying season of my life. So, I decided to get the audible version.

In chapter two that message was delivered loud and clear.

“If you choose today not to break another promise to yourself, you will force yourself to slow down. You cannot keep every commitment, promise, goal, and idea without intentionality.” Rachel says in Girl, Wash Your Face about valuing what is important to you. “Slow down your yes. Only commit to things you know you can accomplish because they’re incredibly important to you.”

You guys, this quote doesn’t do this chapter justice. Every single chapter is full of takeaways, but chapter two, it woke me up.

I needed to slow my yes. I needed to be clear to myself about what my priorities were, and what holds the most value to me.

Since this awakening I have been working on reducing my commitments, choosing just a few projects to focus on at once, and really paying attention to what makes me happy, what is valuable to ME, and what centres me.

I am still on this journey and am slowly getting better at keeping promises to myself. I have been making time to slow down, and just be.

Last night I had the opportunity to go to Rachel’s book signing in Toronto. I met up with a few industry friends and we listened to Rachel speak about following your dreams and then I got to meet both Rachel and her husband Dave. It was an awesome night.

Rachel Hollis

Rachel Hollis

So, if you are going to read (or listen to) just one book this summer, I highly recommend Girl, Wash Your Face. I think we can all take a minute to think about what is truly important to us, be okay with the fact that what holds value to me might not hold as much value to you and that’s okay, and to slow down our “yes.”

Tell me, have you read Girl, Wash Your Face? What books are you reading this summer?






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6 thoughts on “The book that reset my life and made me slow down my “yes””

  1. You’re already a total inspiration, but so happy this book spoke to you as it did for me πŸ™‚

  2. When I was pregnant with twins, I had a minor freak out about my stomach. As I was trying to feel better, I did a google search and found your blog and Rachel’s blog. You both made me feel so much better about my changing body and I have been following you both ever since. I love that you met each other! It’s such a small world. πŸ™‚

  3. I have not read the book but definitely adding it to my reading list for the summer. The concept of slowing down the yes is more or less the same as being able to tell someone “let me get back to you on that” rather than just jumping at every opportunity. My mum taught me this a couple of years back and it has allowed me to lessen the number of things i commit to. Also, being able to just go and think about a proposal before accepting it lessens any over excitements and allows you to see things in a calm way and make more informed decisions. Thanks for your lovely post again Joanna!

  4. oh that sounds great! I think I will order that book too. I personally did a lot of voluntary stuff too in the last couples of years, which I don’t want to do now in order to get my own stuff done. The last time as I was sitting overnight about a voluntary project in order to fit to the expections of the others I promised to my elf: No! That is the last time you do this! You have already so many projects going on, and thats enough. Wouldn’t you love to work put instead to get our min free of all these things cruising around?! Next time you say no!” reconnecting with ourselves is so important. Every “no” to do something additionally which other people want you to do is a “yes” to your own goals!

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