Leaving My Family Is Good For My Marriage

At Blissdom conferenceI left my family for a few days, and it feels amazing. I have slowed down, eaten hot meals at my own pace and have enjoyed both talking to adults and enjoying the silence of my hotel room… heaven.

I am off at a blogging conference a couple hours away from my home, at BlissDom Canada. I am here networking, learning and being inspired. These are my people.At Blue Mountain

Enjoying the picturesque sights at Blue Mountain Village in Collingwood, Ontario

If you have been following my blog, you would know that the last few months have been a tad stressful. Ha! More like can’t catch a breath, feeling like I am drowning stress. Between my kids being sick, living with two toddlers, plus two big kids and all that goes into making lunches, meals, giving baths, playing, cuddling and school drop offs, while running my blog… it’s been wild.

I have been trying to express to my husband, Mike, the level of exhaustion and stress I have been experiencing. Although he has somewhat been hearing me, the magnitude of what my life is at the moment has now sunk in for him in a deliciously real way.

Let me present the series of texts that I have received from him in the past 24 hours… (yes, I have his permission to share these).

Desperate text from husband

The text above was during the last stretch of getting our four kids to bed last night. Here is the text I read when I woke up this morning, that he had sent me in the middle of the night:Text from husband


Text from husband 2If you are a mother, you probably get that hearing these words is so incredibly affirming. Hearing this also makes me feel relieved, knowing that I am, in fact, not crazy. Because let me tell you, there are days where I feel like I am losing my marbles.

I think it is so important for moms to leave their families for a brief time (even if it is just for a few hours) to get a mental break. If possible, have your spouse or significant other step into your shoes.

Although I am loving my time away, I cannot wait to arrive home and re-join the incredible team I am on.

Photo by Sarah Martin Photography

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6 thoughts on “Leaving My Family Is Good For My Marriage”

  1. Oh, I got a kick out of this! My husband is yet to send me texts like this, but the fact that he refuses to give the twins a bath on evenings when I am not around somewhat confirms that I can run this mill in a way he cannot. And visa-versa: bath time with me is not even half as fun for the twins as it is with him… but he needs me for the logistics part of it 🙂 So we are a team indeed! Have fun I wish I was there 🙂 Hubby and I had our very first getaway together at Blue Mountain 🙂

  2. Oh my, I can relate to this (although I only have 2 kids and no twins… Wow, mama!). I have a 4 year old and an 18 month old. I left my full time job when my youngest was born to stay home with my boys and pursue my passion/hobby when I “had time.” We were blessed about a year ago when my small hobby blew up and became a sustainable business. Now I find myself searching my day, trying to find any spare couple of minutes to get some work done. I’ve been at this for a year and I still don’t think I’ve figured it out! I try to work during naptime, but my 4 year old rarely naps now, and my youngest is hit and miss. How do you do it? How do you keep your family fed, your business alive, your children happy and healthy, and your home somewhat clean (sometimes I feel like mine can get downright scary)?

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